Why You Keep Repelling What You Want (and How to Stop)
Wanting isn’t the problem. Needing is.
Your energy is your worst enemy.
Not your ex.
Not the algorithm.
Not Mercury retrograde.
If you’re manifesting hard but still stuck… the call is coming from inside the frequency.
You’re journaling.
Visualizing.
Affirming till your pen runs dry.
But nothing’s clicking.
It’s like the universe is playing keep-away.
Spoiler alert: it kind of is.
Let me explain.
The Paradox of Manifestation
The more you want something, the more you're broadcasting that you don’t have it.
And the universe doesn’t deliver based on how badly you want something.
It delivers based on who you’re being.
So when you’re:
Refreshing your inbox every 12 minutes
Overanalyzing texts like a CIA agent
Whispering “I trust divine timing” while gripping your phone like a life raft...
You’re not in alignment.
You’re in lack.
When you’re in lack, the universe doesn’t soothe you. It matches you.
Because...
The field doesn’t respond to your wish. It responds to your frequency.
This is why:
People desperate for love repel connection.
People desperate for money block abundance.
People desperate to “manifest”… keep chasing.
Neediness repels.
Certainty attracts.
Read those last two lines again.
They are your golden ticket to manifestation.
Memorize them.
Live them.
Share them.
“But Can’t I Just Pretend Not to Care?”
Nice try. You can’t fake a frequency.
You can’t trick the field.
You are the field.
It’s not about pretending you don’t care.
It’s about actually feeling whole with or without the outcome.
And when you finally let go of the grip?
Things move.
The text comes.
The clarity lands.
The house appears.
Which brings me to…
How I Manifested a Dream Property by Letting Go
I’d been wanting to buy in this one neighborhood for years.
It felt impossible—competitive market, low inventory, nothing ever lasted.
A couple weeks ago, my dad brought it up in passing—just mentioned that neighborhood, casually.
But something about it clicked.
I started thinking about it… and quietly put it out there like a wish into the wind:
“I’d love to buy in that area.”
I didn’t know which home, but I could feel the energy of living there.
Then I let it go.
Fully.
No clinging.
No obsessively checking Zillow like it was a stock ticker.
A few hours later, we’re out running errands.
My husband randomly turns left onto a street we never take.
We see an open house.
We stop.
Just to peek.
It’s packed.
Dozens of people.
But somehow, the realtor walks right up to me.
Starts talking.
The energy clicks.
Within 48 hours, our offer is accepted.
No chasing.
No forcing.
Just flow.
I didn’t manifest this house through force.
I became the version of me who already lived there.
I told myself it was already mine.
It was done.
So be it—and let it go.
The Shift: From Desperation to Magnetism
Now let’s get into the crux of how you do this.
Here’s how you switch from blocked to magnetic:
1. Drop the Desperation
Say it with me:
“I’m good with it. I’m good without it. Either way, I’m fine.”
If that feels fake, zoom out.
Breathe.
Go for a walk.
Go count squirrels.
Stare at your tea.
Debate the meaning of a rock.
Interrupt the obsessive loop.
And then try again.
2. Embody Already Having It
Ask yourself:
If I already had this, how would I feel?
How would I move? Speak? Walk through the world?
Now start becoming her—the version of you who already has it.
"Feeling is the secret." —Neville Goddard
(seriously, it’s the heart-centered feeling you’re going for, not logical thoughts).
3. Detach from the How
You don’t need to control the logistics.
You need to hold the frequency.
It’s like ordering a meal.
You don’t run into the kitchen and micromanage the chef.
You just trust your order’s on the way.
And boom, it shows up!
4. Play the “I Don’t Need It” Game
Try this:
“Eh. I’m okay if it doesn’t happen. Life is already full.”
Make this your mantra.
Say it with a shrug.
Mean it with your bones.
It’s an unblocker.
(Yes, I made that word up. And yes, it’s staying… unblocker.)
“But Won’t I Lose the Desire If I Let Go?”
Nope. Nada. No.
You’re not letting go of the desire.
You’re letting go of the attachment to how and when.
The universe already got your order.
Now it’s checking your alignment before delivery.
There’s a time delay in pushing out your wish and it returning. It’s going to find you.
Don’t obsess over it or you will send needy signals out and cancel it.
The universe has heard you.
Your 24-Hour Challenge
Here’s a quick action item for you.
Pick one thing you’ve been spiraling over.
Fully release it for the next 24 hours.
Say: “I’m good either way.”
Mean it.
Feel it.
Then go live your life.
Watch what shifts.
And when it does?
Come back and tell me . I want to hear.
Because this works.
I don’t get it right every time, because I’m a human with fluctuating emotions.
And that perimenopause? Whew. Don’t even get me started.
But I’ve done this enough to know it’s the way to create what you want.
Every time you stop gripping, something greater can land.
You’re not here to chase.
You’re here to magnetize.
Let the field rise to meet you.
You don’t need to chase what’s already yours.
Just become the version of you who receives it.
—Sirah
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