How I Finally Told My Bully to Sc**w Off
It's Not Who You Think
“You aren’t pretty!”
“You’re never going to make it in life!”
“Why would anyone want you to coach them?”
There’s a real jerk in your life who says stuff like this.
That jerk is you. (No offense. But… yeah.)
And if that stung, good. Because you wouldn’t dare say that to your best friend.
So why do you keep saying it to yourself?
I’ve looked in the mirror and thought, “Ugh, you’re so unmotivated.”
Just because I didn’t tick off a to-do list.
But I wouldn’t dream of speaking to someone else like that.
So why is it okay when it’s me?
Let’s be clear:
Words are energy.
Words are instructions.
Words are not just noise.
They program your body.
They tune your nervous system.
They train your mind on what to expect and accept.
What You Say Changes What You Are
Dr. Masaru Emoto proved this with an experiment that feels like it came straight out of a sci-fi movie (but it’s real, I promise).
He took three jars of cooked rice. Same amount. Sealed tight.
Every day for 30 days, he treated each one differently:
Jar 1: He said “Thank you.”
Jar 2: He said “You idiot.”
Jar 3: He ignored completely.
Here’s what happened:
The “Thank You” jar? It fermented peacefully. White. Intact. Almost glowing.
The “You idiot” jar? Covered in black mold. Like, nightmare fuel level.
The ignored jar? Moldy too. As if the silence was just as harmful as the hate.
Let that sink in.
Hate decayed.
Gratitude preserved.
Indifference destroyed.
The same results came from the water experiments.
See below: The captioned words emotionally spoken to the experimental water.
Crazy eh?
Now remember: your body is about 60% water. Your cells are eavesdropping. Your nervous system is tuning in.
If rice and water respond to intention and vibration…
What do you think your body is doing when you tell yourself, “You suck,” for not checking off your to-do list?
This Isn’t Just About Rice And Water
In many cultures, people pray before meals.
Not just to show reverence—
But to bless the food.
To infuse it with good energy.
To raise its frequency before it becomes part of their body.
I was raised in a culture where you began every meal with a prayer—
In the name of a merciful God.
My Christian neighbors from Tennessee would say grace and thank God and Jesus before eating.
My Hindu friend? She’d quietly bless her plate before taking the first bite.
Back then, I thought these were just time-wasting rituals.
Now I wonder:
Maybe they weren’t just being spiritual.
Maybe they were being scientific.
Maybe they knew something we’ve forgotten—
Energy transfers. Always.
So say thank you.
To your food.
To your coffee.
To your houseplants.
To yourself.
Even if it can’t hear you—your field can.
I whisper love messages to my water, food, houseplants, and even car.
So next time we’re hanging out and you think I am talking to my water bottle, know that I AM.
You Are Speaking Your Reality Into Form
Every time you speak, you build something.
Are you building a prison?
Or are you building a sanctuary?
So build carefully.
Speak kindly.
And remember—when in doubt?
Say thank you.
“The words we speak become the house we live in.” -Hafiz