I’ve seen the same six blocks show up everywhere.

In beginners.

In spiritual mentors.

In the women whispering to me, “Why isn’t this working for me?”

The patterns were too loud to ignore.

So I’m not summarizing.

I’m breaking it down.

Because manifestation isn’t magic.

It’s nervous system capacity.

And most people are trying to receive something their body doesn’t yet feel safe holding.

1. The Upper Limit Problem

Why does life wobble when it finally feels good?

You get the client.

The raise.

The peace.

The good week.

And suddenly?

You pick a fight.

You procrastinate.

You “accidentally” sabotage momentum.

This is not coincidence but regulation.

Your body isn’t used to joy.

Your subconscious thinks peace is suspicious.

So it pulls you back to “normal.”

Familiar stress, chaos, and problems.

When my YouTube channel finally became profitable and I tasted real independence, a copyright strike shut it down overnight.

The real lesson for me wasn’t the lost income, it was watching how fast my system defaulted to fear when things finally felt secure.

So here’s what to do:

• Notice the wobble.

• Don’t panic but pause.

• Say out loud: “This is just my thermostat resetting.”

• Breathe through the discomfort.

• Practice holding joy without apology.

Joy is a muscle.

Most people have never trained it.

2. Subconscious Brules (Bullsh*t Rules)

You say you want abundance.

But do you believe you’re allowed to have it?

Or are you still running old software like:

• “Money makes people bad.”

• “Love doesn’t last.”

• “Success costs peace.”

• “If I shine, someone will resent me.”

These are brules.

Bullsh*t rules.

Picked up from family.

Culture.

Religion.

That one ex.

That one teacher.

They run like background code.

Until you rewrite them, they’ll quietly veto every breakthrough.

I learned this the hard way when I was managing in healthcare.

I was good at my job. Decisive. Competent. Respected by my team.

And instead of that being developed, it triggered insecurity in the person above me.

I was blocked from learning. Documented unfairly. Slowly isolated.

And somewhere in that season, a brule installed itself quietly:

If you shine, someone will try to dim you.

And the dangerous thing about brules is that they don’t stay in one season.

That one followed me.

I would over-prepare instead of launch.

Downplay instead of declare.

Play small instead of expand.

I expected backlash.

Until I saw what it was costing me.

I was building my future around someone else’s insecurity.

That’s when it shifted.

I named it.

And once I named it, it stopped feeling like truth.

Backlash isn’t a law.

It was just a memory.

3. Emotional Incongruence

You say, “I want this.”

But your body says, “That doesn’t feel safe.”

You think you’re lazy.

You’re actually bracing.

Somewhere along the way, your system learned that wanting more came with friction.

Culturally, I was raised to decline first.

Even if I wanted the chocolate chip cookie at my aunt’s house.

If she offered, you say no.

If she insists, you say no again.

Only after she insists a few times is it acceptable to take one.

Just one.

Polite.

Measured.

Not eager.

Now translate that into adulthood.

Opportunities show up.

Compliments land.

Expansion knocks.

And part of you still says, “No, it’s fine.”

Even when you want it.

That’s emotional incongruence.

Your desire says yes.

Your conditioning says decline.

What to do:

• Find that voice.

• Let it speak.

• Tell it: “I’m safe now. I’m allowed now.”

• Then act like someone who deserves what they asked for.

The body has to catch up to the vision.

4. Hustle Mode Disguised as Alignment

Busy does not equal magnetic.

Action from fear creates resistance.

Action from flow creates results.

This is where people burn out trying to “prove” they deserve what they want.

You can’t outwork misalignment.

I’ve noticed this in my own career.

When I’ve applied for jobs from a place of “I need this” or “I should do this,” the energy feels tight.

Proving.

Gripping.

Trying to secure something.

Those are the ones I don’t get.

But when I’ve applied because something genuinely excited me because it felt aligned and the process moved easily.

Conversations flowed.

Offers came quickly.

There was no chasing.

Same résumé.

Different energy.

What to do:

• Cancel one forced thing.

• Do one true thing.

• Move from inspiration, not anxiety.

5. Visualization That Backfires

If your vision feels like a reminder of lack…

It’s not working.

The mind sees the image.
The field feels the emotion.

Longing broadcasts separation.
Desperation magnetizes distance.

That’s why people visualize harder and feel worse.

If you’re visualizing your dream house while side-eyeing your current one, your nervous system is not convinced.

Keep it light. Self-aware. Relatable.

What to do:

• Visualize as if it’s already here.

• Feel gratitude now.

• Speak from now, not someday.

This isn’t delusion.

It’s emotional calibration.

6. The Surrender Paradox

You want it.

You name it.

You claim it.

Now let go.

Not of the dream.

But of the micromanaging.

The timeline.

The obsession.

The refreshing.

I’m currently watching my crypto wallet drop without spiraling.

I’ve made the moves that align with my long-term strategy.

The rest is surrender.

What to do:

• Say: “This or something better.”

• Mean it.

• Go live your life.

Let life match your energy.

Not your fixation.

Closing

The work isn’t in the wishing.

It’s in expanding your capacity to receive.

Most people don’t fail at manifestation.

They fail at holding what they asked for.

So if things feel close…

If it feels like you’re almost there…

Don’t push harder.

Regulate deeper.

Because sometimes the final block isn’t the universe.

It’s your nervous system learning how to feel safe with more.

Manifestation isn’t about wishing harder.

It’s about becoming someone who can safely receive.

If you’re ready to build that capacity in a structured, grounded way, my 6-day course walks you through identity work, emotional regulation, energetic alignment, and subconscious rewiring.

Not hype. Not bypassing.

Just depth.

You can begin here.

That Moment

That strange, electric flash where you suddenly feel like you’ve already been here before.

Not similar.

Not familiar.

Exact.

Your body reacts first with the thought “Oh, I remember this”.

Most people dismiss it.

I don’t.

Because déjà vu isn’t random.

It’s recognition.

You Are Not Just This Body

Before we talk about déjà vu, we need to talk about you.

You are not just your body.

You are a soul temporarily using a body.

This body carries your name.

Your story.

Your current identity.

But your soul is older than this lifetime.

It has worn other names.Other roles.

The Red Pill

Before you entered this body, you made a life plan — not alone, but with spiritual peers, guides, and soul companions.

There is a design process that happens before incarnation.

Themes are chosen.

Experiences outlined.

Key relationships coordinated.

The purpose is experience.

And those experiences aren’t always positive.

That’s the learning curve.

Physical life is embodied curriculum.

A Personal Glimpse

I didn’t arrive at this theory casually.

I did a past life regression out of pure curiosity.

I expected imagination.

What I didn’t expect was seeing a clear story.

I saw myself as a man walking cobblestone streets somewhere that looked unmistakably European. It was… ordinary and strangely familiar.

I was walked through that life and experienced a similar trauma that I have experienced in this life. And then again in another regression in a different time and setting. It’s a theme my soul has chosen to experience and move through — child loss.

The Ski Hill

The spiritual side is the classroom.

You can read about skiing.

Understand the mechanics.

Study the theory.

But until you strap on the skis and hit the mountain, you don’t know skiing.

This life is the ski hill.

This is where knowledge becomes sensation.

And yes …it can be bumpy.

Free Will Still Exists

Here’s where people get stuck.

If there’s a life plan, do we still have choice?

Yes.

You can diverge.

Delay.

Resist.

Rewrite.

But when you are moving through a moment that closely matches your original blueprint something happens.

Recognition.

Déjà Vu Is a Recognition Event

Déjà vu is not a glitch.

It’s not coincidence.

It’s recognition.

You don’t get the whole script cause that would ruin the experience.

You don’t want someone to ruin the ending of a movie, you want to enjoy the plot with all its ups and down.

But you get a flash and if feels like: “I’ve lived this before.”

You haven’t lived it.

You planned it.

Why This Matters

If déjà vu is recognition, then your life is not random.

If you can recognize alignment, then you are not wandering blind.

If you feel that flash, that pause, that moment where time folds it means something.

It means you’re touching a part of your design.

And that changes how you move.

It changes how you endure.

It changes how you interpret hardship.

Because if life extends beyond this physical window, then even pain sits inside a larger structure.

Not meaningless.

Not chaotic.

Structured.

And when déjà vu hits, it isn’t there to mystify you.

It’s there to steady you.

Let It Ground You

So the next time you feel that electric pause, that unmistakable recognition…don’t dismiss it.

You’re not glitching.

You’re remembering.

You planned it that way.

If you want to go deeper into how identity, alignment, and life design actually work together, that’s what I teach inside my manifestation course.

Because recognizing alignment is powerful.

Learning how to create it intentionally is next level.

You can explore it here.

I want to talk about something many people felt last year, even if they couldn’t quite name it.

2025 wasn’t just “a hard year.”

It was an ending year.

In numerology, 9 marks the end of a cycle.

2 + 0 + 2 + 5 = 9

And endings don’t usually arrive politely.

They arrive like this:

When you suddenly realize a structure has already been collapsing for a while,and all that’s left is whether you keep pretending it isn’t.

For many people, multiple areas of life unraveled at once.

Jobs.

Identity.

Direction.

Relationships.

Things that had been barely holding together finally gave way.

It can feel brutal when it all hits at the same time.

Like the universe dumping every drawer onto the floor and saying,

“We’re not reorganizing this. We’re deciding what’s staying.”

That’s what 2025 was doing.

Not punishing.

Clearing.

A 9 year doesn’t ask, What do you want to build?

It asks, What are you done dragging?

And for most people, those endings weren’t chosen consciously.

They were forced.

Exhaustion made the decision when willpower wouldn’t.

I watched many people around me hit unexpected crossroads—and I wasn’t exempt from that energy.

I went through an emotional reckoning in a personal relationship I wasn’t actively questioning.

What I thought was “status quo” was quietly asking for a decision.

The year forced me to choose whether I would continue emotionally bypassing—or finally honor what I already knew.

Once that truth surfaced, it couldn’t be unseen.

I let an old identity fall away, and what felt unbearable at the time did pass.

On the other side was a truer, more aligned path.

Now Here’s Where We Are

We’ve entered a 1 year.

2 + 0 + 2 + 6 = 10

1 + 0 = 1

A new cycle.

A new identity phase.

A new direction.

But this isn’t a gentle reset.

This is also a Horse year.

Horse energy is momentum.

If a 9 year is demolition, a 1 year is ignition.

And the Horse is acceleration.

Horse energy doesn’t wait for you to feel ready.

It doesn’t inch forward cautiously.

It takes whatever direction you’re already facing and multiplies it.

Think of it like standing still on a moving walkway.

Even if you don’t walk, you’re still going somewhere.

This year works like that.

Whatever you’re sitting in—clarity or confusion, truth or avoidance, self-trust or self-betrayal—starts moving faster.

That’s why so many people feel restless right now.

Pressured.

Like time itself has picked up speed.

It isn’t random.

This year responds to engagement, not overthinking.

February 17: A Momentum Shift

There is one date worth naming—not as a warning, but as a point of energetic potency.

February 17.

Astrologically, it marks a shift where momentum accelerates.

It’s the moment the horse breaks into a run.

If your feet are planted—if your intentions are clear—the movement carries you.

But if you’re undecided, fragmented, or still negotiating with what you already know is over, this is where people feel unseated.

Because speed exposes stance.

So this isn’t about fear.

And it isn’t about forcing readiness.

It’s about grounding before momentum multiplies.

You don’t need every answer by February 17.

You just need to know where you’re standing and which direction you’re facing.

There are three things this year is quietly asking for.

First: inner work.

But not the endless, circular kind.

This isn’t the year to analyze your childhood for another six months.

It’s the year to notice patterns—and decide.

What did last year expose?

What stopped working no matter how much effort you poured into it?

What are you already done with, even if you haven’t said it out loud yet?

Clarity doesn’t come from digging forever.

It comes from honesty.

And honesty is usually the thing we avoid the longest.

Second: action.

Not big leaps.

Not perfect plans.

Movement.

Horse energy doesn’t require certainty.

It requires direction.

You don’t need the whole map.

You need a heading.

One step taken in truth beats ten plans made in fear.

Third—and this is the hardest—surrendering control of the process.

That doesn’t mean giving up.

It means loosening the grip.

If you’ve ever tried to control a horse, you know this: the tighter you pull, the more resistance you get.

This year works the same way.

You participate.

You move.

You adjust.

But you don’t micromanage the timeline.

Staying Grounded While Things Speed Up

If last year felt like everything fell apart, this year is about choosing what you’re willing to move forward with and what you’re finally leaving behind.

This isn’t a year to freeze.

It’s a year to engage.

Even quietly.

Even imperfectly.

Even before you feel ready.

And stay grounded.

I’m grounding through nature walks, standing barefoot on the grass, salt baths, and light kettlebell exercises.

This helps my nervous system release excess stress energy.

Find one grounding practice that works for you and return to it consistently—especially when things speed up.

Choose to ride this horse with grace, not let it buck you off.

This year isn’t about control.

It’s about staying grounded while momentum builds.

Choose your direction—and let movement do the rest.

If you want structured support grounding into this shift and moving forward with clarity, I’ve put my programs and tools in one place. They’re there if and when you want to go deeper.

This episode explores how belief shapes reality, why repetition turns ideas into truth, and how cultural conditioning—especially around women—keeps painful cycles alive.

A spoken manifesto on reclaiming your voice, breaking inherited patterns, and choosing beliefs that build the future you want to live in.

In this episode, we break down the law of assumption, vibration, and why manifestation works through imagination, emotion, and belief.

Learn why affirmations fail, how heart energy drives attraction, and how shifting assumptions changes what shows up in your life.

Hope has always made power uncomfortable.

Not performative hope.

Not slogans or speeches.

The embodied kind.

The kind that lives in the nervous system before it becomes an idea.

That’s what the Ghost Dance was and that’s why it was destroyed.

In December of 1890, the United States Army surrounded a group of Lakota people at Wounded Knee Creek in South Dakota.

What followed was not a battle. It was a massacre.

More than 250 Lakota were killed.

Most were women, children, and elderly people.

Many were unarmed.

Some were shot while fleeing; many bodies were later found frozen in positions of escape.

Others were killed by artillery fire meant for warfare, not civilians.

This happened during an attempt to disarm them.

The Lakota were not preparing for violence.

They were practicing the Ghost Dance, a spiritual ceremony rooted in grief, renewal, and the belief that suffering was not the end of the story.

The dance taught that ancestors were still present.

That the earth could heal.

That a new world could emerge without bloodshed.

Movement was the prayer.

People gathered in circles. They sang. They danced. They mourned together.

After decades of starvation, broken treaties, stolen children, and cultural erasure, the Ghost Dance was a way to metabolize devastation when nothing else remained.

To the U.S. government and military, this terrified them.

Large gatherings of Native people were viewed as dangerous. Indigenous spirituality was treated as rebellion. Even the belief (symbolic, not militaristic)that ceremonial clothing held spiritual protection was interpreted as a threat.

Hope outside state control was unacceptable.

So the Army opened fire.

Twenty Medals of Honor were later awarded to U.S. soldiers for their actions that day. To this day, Native communities continue to call for those medals to be rescinded.

That detail matters.

Because this wasn’t a misunderstanding.

It wasn’t chaos.

It was power responding violently to something it could not regulate.

As I sat with this history, something personal surfaced for me.

I was raised in a culture where dancing—just dancing—was discouraged.

Not ritual dancing. Not religious dancing. Dancing for joy.

Music, movement, laughter, bodies syncing together in ways that felt alive.

It wasn’t framed as spiritual. It was framed as inappropriate. Disrespectful. Excessive. Something to be controlled.

At the time, I didn’t have language for why that restriction felt wrong.

I only knew that dancing made me happy and that happiness, strangely, seemed suspicious.

Now I wonder if there were layers to that fear.

Happy people are harder to control than scared ones.

Regulated bodies are harder to dominate than dysregulated ones.

Communities that move and grieve together don’t fracture as easily.

Across history, the pattern repeats.

Certain Sufi Muslim orders spin in circles to experience divine union.

This is done as devotion, not entertainment.

The body moving until the ego loosens its grip and something larger takes over. For centuries, these mystics have been persecuted—often by other Muslims—for practicing what was labeled dangerous or heretical.

Not because the practice was violent.

Because it bypassed authority.

One of the most famous examples is Mansur al-Hallaj, a Sufi executed in 922 CE for declaring “I am the Truth.”

Mystically, it meant the self had dissolved into God.

Politically and religiously, it was heard as an unforgivable collapse of hierarchy.

A human speaking from inside the divine, without permission.

When people access meaning directly—through movement, ritual, trance, or inner experience—they no longer need intermediaries.

No institution to approve the connection.

No hierarchy to interpret God on their behalf.

That kind of access has always been threatening.

The Salem witch trials weren’t about witches.

Banned ceremonies weren’t about safety.

Wounded Knee wasn’t about keeping the peace.

They were about control.

Spiritual and mystical practices are feared when they restore agency to the individual and coherence to the group.

When grief is processed collectively instead of suppressed.

When bodies move instead of freeze.

When joy circulates instead of obedience.

The Ghost Dance was dangerous because it offered hope without permission.

And that is the one thing power has never known how to tolerate.

What makes this history especially tragic is not only the massacre, but what followed.

Ceremony driven underground.

Movement associated with danger.

Silence replacing song.

Bodies learning, over generations, that expression equals risk.

That kind of trauma doesn’t end in one place or one year.

It echoes. In depression. In addiction. In disconnection. In the quiet belief that joy is unsafe.

And yet this is where I return to hope.

Something ancient is re-emerging.

People are going inward again.

Not abstractly, but physically. Through movement. Breath. Meditation. Dance. Somatic healing. Quiet rituals done without permission or performance.

More people are choosing direct experience over inherited fear.

Inner authority over borrowed belief.

Embodiment over suppression.

This isn’t about rejecting religion.

It’s about remembering that God was never confined to control structures.

History shows us that you can interrupt a movement.

You can suppress a ritual.

You can massacre a people.

But you cannot permanently erase humanity’s instinct to move toward meaning, coherence, and joy.

The dance always returns.

And this time, more people are listening to their bodies when it does.

What if I told you that you’re the summoner of everything in your life.

The good, the bad, the ugly.

It takes a lot of courage to take that amount of personal responsibility for your life.

But the sooner you do, the sooner you’ll master manifesting more of what you want.

All Is Mind

“All is mind.” —Kybalion

The first law of The Kybalion tells us that everything is created in the mind.

It all starts with imagination.

Imagination Made Real

Thomas Edison visualized a practical, long-lasting electric light for homes and businesses.

Poof—in comes the lightbulb.

Alexander Graham Bell imagined transmitting the human voice over wires, he inspired by his work teaching the deaf and experimenting with sound.

Poof—in comes the telephone.

Josephine Cochrane, frustrated by her fine china being chipped during hand washing, envisioned a machine to wash dishes more gently and efficiently.

Poof—in comes the KitchenAid/Whirlpool dishwasher.

There’s one magic pill with their imagination—they didn’t doubt it was coming to form.

They actually assumed it was possible.

Poof—in comes The Law of Assumption.

The golden egg to deliberate manifestation.

The Law of Assumption

In life you get what you think you will.

If you assume you will get the promotion with pure conviction, you certainly will.

But if you infuse your desire to be promoted with doubt as to whether you are capable for the job, or the best fit, you are sabotaging your chances by infusing the vibration of not being a match into it.

The Law of Vibration

You see, everything—absolutely everything—has a specific vibration to it.

No exceptions to it.

Your body, a walnut, thoughts, and emotions.

Anger vibrates higher than fear.

David Hawkins mapped emotions into a Scale of Consciousness that shows the frequency of different states.

And guess what? Like attracts like.

You’ll see all the gossiping parents clump together in the school grounds.
You’ll see the kids that enjoy basketball find each other on a court.
You’ll experience one shitty experience after another on a day you wake up frustrated.

The driver cutting you off on the road will add to your frustration.

Then lo and behold, the minute you get to work, a coworker will throw something at you to frustrate you more.

Welcome to the Law of Vibration:
Everything in the universe vibrates, and your energy draws its match.

Tuning Your Frequency

You emit vibrations all day, every day.

Vibrations through your thoughts, words, actions, and beliefs.

In other words, your assumptions.

Whenever you are tuned into a particular assumption you will draw the match to it.

It’s like tuning into a radio station, you only get to hear what’s on the station you’re tuned to.
You could easily dial the knob and get to another station to hear another song.

You are the radio.
Your collective thoughts, words, actions, and assumptions are the knob tuning to the stations.

If you don’t like the station you’re tuned into, you need to change the components of that knob.

The Heart’s Electromagnetic Power

And this is how you do it.

Let’s work backwards: the assumption is the most powerful part of your vibration.

The assumption will create repeated thoughts:

“Everyone is so annoying. Nothing goes right. It’s just one of those days.”

Those thoughts will generate emotions in your heart that will do the work of pulling an experience towards you.

The HeartMath Institute has proved through scientific research that our hearts have a much larger electromagnetic field than even our brains.

The heart is the power source for manifestations.

As such, you are doing the work of pulling experiences towards you by the vibration you’re pushing out.

The universe just matches it to you.

The universe doesn’t discriminate on vibrations or try to rationalize that maybe you’re sending signals of frustration but don’t really like the feeling of it.

It gets the signal “I am frustrated” and responds with your “I AM” vibration as if that’s what you’re asking for..

Order up! Here comes more frustration your way.

Why Affirmations Alone Don’t Work

The heart energy is a testament to your true beliefs, your assumptions, so it will always win over inauthentic words.

This is why affirmations don’t work.

In a battle between your words or emotions, your emotions win.

They are pushed out from the powerful heart, and the universe will always give them priority.

If you say “I am a worthy person” yet believe or feel unworthy, the universe will match your vibration of unworthiness and give you more experiences adding to that feeling.

Affirmations and vision boards are a great starting point, but you must get to the state of being what you desire.

Believing that is you…without a doubt.

The Golden Rule of Real Change

Master your vibration through your assumptions.

This, my friend, is the golden rule that can bring real change to your life.

All the best! ✨

It’s Just the Way Things Are.

Six words of poisonous disempowerment.

Concede to them, and you’ve already destroyed your chance of changing your world.

Every single thing you experience today was once an idea—an act of defiance against “the way things were.”

Do not accept reality as fixed.

Stay delusional in the direction of the world you want to live in.

Delusional people actually change the world

Not the passive conceders.

The Pull of Reality

Of course, there will be days you collapse into what’s being pushed at you. Days when you feel defeated. When you mutter, “This is reality” as if it’s final.

That’s fine. Give yourself 48 hours to feel it—but then find a way out. Otherwise your mind and body will get addicted to sorrow.

And here’s where psychology helps.

The illusory truth effect is the brain’s tendency to believe something the more often it’s repeated.

Familiarity gets confused with truth — so the more often you hear or say something, the more believable it becomes.

Think news media, cult leaders, politicians…they use this phenomenon copiously to get others to believe in things that aren’t real.

Then what happens?

Eventually with enough buy in, those unreal things tend to become realities.

People start unconsciously behaving and acting in ways that create the new reality.

But the tool itself isn’t evil. It’s neutral.

So why not use it for your own good? State the truth you want until it takes root.

My Own Breaking Point

This isn’t just theory.

I was raised in an ideology that quietly, consistently taught: things were harder for girls.

Not because we were weaker but because our reputations were more fragile.

More watched.

More judged.

More punishable.

Girls had to accept the double standards because “that’s just the way things are.”

I watched families in my community—especially in religious spaces—hold their daughters to tighter rules than their sons.

Letting their sons do things they would not allow their daughters from a place of protection.

Boys could go out late.

Wear what they wanted.

Date.

Drink.

Dance.

Girls? We were told to sit still, stay small, stay safe.

I heard parents admit they didn’t think it was fair but it’s just the way things are.

Here’s a simple example that stuck:

My mom told me never to dance in public.

Not at weddings.

Not at parties.

Not at all.

Because in our community, a girl who danced was seen as shameful.

Boys dancing? It’s all good and entertaining. Maybe even good exercise.

Girls? It was a scandal. A reason to be exiled.

Literally.

I remember community announcements calling girls out by name for dancing at weddings.

Yes—full-blown spiritual shaming with a public ban attached.

“Jane Doe was seen shaking her hips at the wedding of Jack and Jill.
Please pray for her soul. She is no longer welcome at our gatherings.”

Shakira was right—those hips don’t lie.

And apparently, they get you kicked out.

As a little girl, I wanted to dance so badly.

When bhangra came on, my soul lit up—but I stayed still.

My body followed the rules even when my spirit didn’t want to.

That changed around age 15.

I finally let myself move and I was willing to face whatever came with it.

Then I did all the other “good girl” things too.

I got an arranged married.

Had kids.

Played the role.

And then I started to hear women from my generation—mothers now—repeat the same words their parents said:

“We don’t like the double standards. But that’s just the way things are.”

Shut the front door.

This is how well-meaning people carry forward painful cycles.

And yes, I fell into it too.

Not outwardly—I would never say I agreed with the double standard.

But I did in action.

I accepted less.

I tolerated more bs.

I swallowed my sorrow to stay in alignment with cultural expectations of what a woman should endure.

Did it lead me to happiness?

Not even close.

It was a slow erosion of my soul.

What I Know Now

You see, the further we drift from our soul’s original imprint—from God’s grace, from truth, from love—the more our light dims.

And it doesn’t stop at the spirit. It leaks into the body.

When the soul is in pain, the body eventually breaks.

We get sick.

We feel heavy.

We spiral into apathy, anxiety, depression.

We lose trust in life.

We start to expect betrayal instead of beauty.

We become hypervigilant, reactive, shut down.

Until one day—something forces us to stop.

For me, it was two blows at once:

A near-death experience…

And the loss of my daughter in the eighth month of pregnancy.

That day ripped open the illusion.

The dark room I’d been trapped in…suddenly flooded with light.

I saw clearly, maybe for the first time:

There is no set way.
There is only what we believe to be true.

And the phrase that once held power over me: “It’s just the way things are”—
suddenly meant nothing.

Because that might be your way.

It doesn’t have to be mine.

And my truth is this:

Girls are not here to be silenced.
Or punished.
Or groomed for sacrifice.
They are here to be powerful.
To be free.
To say no.
To say yes.
To dance, to cry, to fail, to lead, to be seen.

If someone says their reputation will suffer?

Ask: Reputation tarnished by who?

The same people who delight in shaming others while hiding their own shadows?

Let them stew in their projections.

That’s their work.

Not mine.

Not yours.

Your only job is to claim your truth.

To live it loudly.

To speak it into the air like a spell that rewrites the rules.

Because it is a spell.

Beliefs are living things.

Say them often enough, and your nervous system adapts.

Your reality bends to fit them.

Your children absorb them.

So be careful what you concede to.

Be careful what you repeat.

Never say something you don’t want to program into your future—or your lineage.

Choose your truth with intention.

Speak it with love.

And repeat it until it replaces the lie.

For me, my daughter, the one I never got to hold, was the one who handed me back my voice.

Her exit cracked something open in me that no ideology could close again.

She left me a truth that lives inside me now:

Girls don’t need to shrink to survive.
We were never meant to.

So here I am.

Speaking it into my life.

So it can ripple into yours.

And maybe into hers—wherever she is.

Speak your truth.

Let the world rise to meet it.

All the best,
—Sirah

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Your energy is your worst enemy.

Not your ex.

Not the algorithm.

Not Mercury retrograde.

If you’re manifesting hard but still stuck… the call is coming from inside the frequency.

You’re journaling.

Visualizing.

Affirming till your pen runs dry.

But nothing’s clicking.

It’s like the universe is playing keep-away.

Spoiler alert: it kind of is.

Let me explain.

The Paradox of Manifestation

The more you want something, the more you're broadcasting that you don’t have it.

And the universe doesn’t deliver based on how badly you want something.

It delivers based on who you’re being.

So when you’re:

• Refreshing your inbox every 12 minutes

• Overanalyzing texts like a CIA agent

• Whispering “I trust divine timing” while gripping your phone like a life raft...

You’re not in alignment.

You’re in lack.

When you’re in lack, the universe doesn’t soothe you. It matches you.

Because...

The field doesn’t respond to your wish. It responds to your frequency.

This is why:

• People desperate for love repel connection.

• People desperate for money block abundance.

• People desperate to “manifest”… keep chasing.

Neediness repels.

Certainty attracts.

Read those last two lines again.

They are your golden ticket to manifestation.

Memorize them.

Live them.

Share them.

“But Can’t I Just Pretend Not to Care?”

Nice try. You can’t fake a frequency.

You can’t trick the field.

You are the field.

It’s not about pretending you don’t care.

It’s about actually feeling whole with or without the outcome.

And when you finally let go of the grip?

Things move.

The text comes.

The clarity lands.

The house appears.

Which brings me to…

How I Manifested a Dream Property by Letting Go

I’d been wanting to buy in this one neighborhood for years.

It felt impossible—competitive market, low inventory, nothing ever lasted.

A couple weeks ago, my dad brought it up in passing—just mentioned that neighborhood, casually.

But something about it clicked.

I started thinking about it… and quietly put it out there like a wish into the wind:

“I’d love to buy in that area.”

I didn’t know which home, but I could feel the energy of living there.

Then I let it go.

Fully.

No clinging.

No obsessively checking Zillow like it was a stock ticker.

A few hours later, we’re out running errands.

My husband randomly turns left onto a street we never take.

We see an open house.

We stop.

Just to peek.

It’s packed.

Dozens of people.

But somehow, the realtor walks right up to me.

Starts talking.

The energy clicks.

Within 48 hours, our offer is accepted.

No chasing.

No forcing.

Just flow.

I didn’t manifest this house through force.

I became the version of me who already lived there.

I told myself it was already mine.

It was done.

So be it—and let it go.

The Shift: From Desperation to Magnetism

Now let’s get into the crux of how you do this.

Here’s how you switch from blocked to magnetic:

1. Drop the Desperation

Say it with me:

“I’m good with it. I’m good without it. Either way, I’m fine.”

If that feels fake, zoom out.

Breathe.

Go for a walk.

Go count squirrels.

Stare at your tea.

Debate the meaning of a rock.

Interrupt the obsessive loop.

And then try again.

2. Embody Already Having It

Ask yourself:

If I already had this, how would I feel?

How would I move? Speak? Walk through the world?

Now start becoming her—the version of you who already has it.

"Feeling is the secret." —Neville Goddard

(seriously, it’s the heart-centered feeling you’re going for, not logical thoughts).

3. Detach from the How

You don’t need to control the logistics.

You need to hold the frequency.

It’s like ordering a meal.

You don’t run into the kitchen and micromanage the chef.

You just trust your order’s on the way.

And boom, it shows up!

4. Play the “I Don’t Need It” Game

Try this:

“Eh. I’m okay if it doesn’t happen. Life is already full.”

Make this your mantra.

Say it with a shrug.

Mean it with your bones.

It’s an unblocker.

(Yes, I made that word up. And yes, it’s staying… unblocker.)

“But Won’t I Lose the Desire If I Let Go?”

Nope. Nada. No.

You’re not letting go of the desire.

You’re letting go of the attachment to how and when.

The universe already got your order.

Now it’s checking your alignment before delivery.

There’s a time delay in pushing out your wish and it returning. It’s going to find you.

Don’t obsess over it or you will send needy signals out and cancel it.

The universe has heard you.

Your 24-Hour Challenge

Here’s a quick action item for you.

Pick one thing you’ve been spiraling over.

Fully release it for the next 24 hours.

Say: “I’m good either way.”

Mean it.

Feel it.

Then go live your life.

Watch what shifts.

And when it does?

Come back and tell me . I want to hear.

Because this works.

I don’t get it right every time, because I’m a human with fluctuating emotions.

And that perimenopause? Whew. Don’t even get me started.

But I’ve done this enough to know it’s the way to create what you want.

Every time you stop gripping, something greater can land.

You’re not here to chase.

You’re here to magnetize.

Let the field rise to meet you.

You don’t need to chase what’s already yours.

Just become the version of you who receives it.

—Sirah

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“You aren’t pretty!”

“You’re never going to make it in life!”

“Why would anyone want you to coach them?”

There’s a real jerk in your life who says stuff like this.

That jerk is you. (No offense. But… yeah.)

And if that stung, good. Because you wouldn’t dare say that to your best friend.
So why do you keep saying it to yourself?

I’ve looked in the mirror and thought, “Ugh, you’re so unmotivated.”
Just because I didn’t tick off a to-do list.

But I wouldn’t dream of speaking to someone else like that.

So why is it okay when it’s me?

Let’s be clear:

• Words are energy.

• Words are instructions.

• Words are not just noise.

They program your body.

They tune your nervous system.

They train your mind on what to expect and accept.

What You Say Changes What You Are

Dr. Masaru Emoto proved this with an experiment that feels like it came straight out of a sci-fi movie (but it’s real, I promise).

He took three jars of cooked rice. Same amount. Sealed tight.
Every day for 30 days, he treated each one differently:

• Jar 1: He said “Thank you.”

• Jar 2: He said “You idiot.”

• Jar 3: He ignored completely.

Here’s what happened:

The “Thank You” jar? It fermented peacefully. White. Intact. Almost glowing.

The “You idiot” jar? Covered in black mold. Like, nightmare fuel level.

The ignored jar? Moldy too. As if the silence was just as harmful as the hate.

Let that sink in.

Hate decayed.

Gratitude preserved.

Indifference destroyed.

The same results came from the water experiments.

See below: The captioned words emotionally spoken to the experimental water.

Crazy eh?

Now remember: your body is about 60% water. Your cells are eavesdropping. Your nervous system is tuning in.

If rice and water respond to intention and vibration…

What do you think your body is doing when you tell yourself, “You suck,” for not checking off your to-do list?

This Isn’t Just About Rice And Water

In many cultures, people pray before meals.
Not just to show reverence—
But to bless the food.
To infuse it with good energy.
To raise its frequency before it becomes part of their body.

I was raised in a culture where you began every meal with a prayer—
In the name of a merciful God.

My Christian neighbors from Tennessee would say grace and thank God and Jesus before eating.

My Hindu friend? She’d quietly bless her plate before taking the first bite.

Back then, I thought these were just time-wasting rituals.
Now I wonder:

Maybe they weren’t just being spiritual.
Maybe they were being scientific.
Maybe they knew something we’ve forgotten—

Energy transfers. Always.

So say thank you.
To your food.
To your coffee.
To your houseplants.
To yourself.

Even if it can’t hear you—your field can.

I whisper love messages to my water, food, houseplants, and even car.

So next time we’re hanging out and you think I am talking to my water bottle, know that I AM.

You Are Speaking Your Reality Into Form

Every time you speak, you build something.

Are you building a prison?

Or are you building a sanctuary?

So build carefully.
Speak kindly.
And remember—when in doubt?

Say thank you.

By my ego.

That sneaky bastard crept up on me—I didn’t even see her coming.

One minute, I’m banging out articles, scheduling them, feeling in flow.

The next, I’m drowning in the need for external validation.

And when I don’t get it?

I start feeling worthless.

It was a rough 12 hours.

Before bed, I gave my subconscious a task: find a way out.

I do this often—set mental instructions before I sleep.

Problem was, I didn’t sleep well. So my subconscious never got the space to work without me getting in the way.

And by me, I mean my ego thoughts.

The next morning, I made the sound choice to walk in nature.

It was the perfect remedy for my open wounds.

And somewhere between the rustling trees and the quiet stillness, I understood something:

These ego-fueled thoughts—they’re not just passing ideas.

They’re energy pockets trying to stay alive.

Not metaphorically. Literally.

Emotional thoughts and experiences create energetic imprints around us.

And those imprints? They don’t just fade away. They want to grow. They want to survive.

So they return through your ego, feeding you insecurities and self-doubt.

And when you emotionally attach to those thoughts, you feed them.

They take your energy and expand (our greatest bank of energy is tied to our emotions).

This is why you spiral. Why a small insecurity morphs into something unbearable.

Because the more you engage with it, the bigger it gets.

And despite knowing this—despite years of metaphysical study—I still fell for it.

Because this is what’s it’s like being human.

We can know what’s best for us and still do the opposite.

It’s called stumbling. And there’s no shame in it.

But through that stumble, I realized how ridiculous I was being.

My self-worth isn’t based on external validation.

That’s the weakest place to put it.

Every single one of us is worthy as we are.

But in this game of life, we will have moments like these.

And when we do, we have to be our own best coaches—recognize the stumble, then course-correct.

So this week, my ego is taking a backseat.

She’s in timeout.

I’m not forcing her to disappear—there’s value in having an ego.

Our egos keep us grounded in this world. Without them, we might detach completely, lost in some extreme version of spirituality.

But we are here—in these human bodies—for a reason.

We are meant to experience this physical world.

The key is using the ego as a tool—not letting it run the show.

And here’s something important:

There are laws in the universe. And one of them is as within, so without.

What you feel inside will always be mirrored back to you.

If you don’t feel worthy, life will keep reflecting that back—through people, circumstances, patterns.

This is why seeking external validation is a trap.

A mental, spiritual, energy-draining trap.

So here’s your takeaway:

When your ego tries to drag you into a spiral, tell her to step aside.

Do not attach to those thoughts emotionally.

Your emotions are energy in motion—don’t give them away to things that don’t serve you.

Eventually, that pull will weaken.

It took me 12 hours of mental hell, but somewhere in there, my subconscious reminded me:

These energy pendulums, as Vadim Zeland describes them, exist.

And the only way they survive is through your emotional investment.

Don’t feed the beast.

Feed your soul.

So if you’re having a crappy day, do something to shift that energy.

Last week, I wrote about mindful walking—focus on every step and experience it as progress.

Be present. Be aware.

Give your energy to something else, and the ego won’t have room to creep in.

Take a walk in nature—there’s healing available for free.

Or just sit with your thoughts. Observe them.

Recognize the false beliefs behind them.

And remind yourself: they only grow if you feed them.

Talk yourself through it.

No shame. Just progress.

Keep moving.

All the best friend,

Sirah

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Your body is screaming for help, but you're too busy to listen.

We're all caught up in the daily hustle, barely finding time to breathe, let alone practice self-care.

When I worked in a corporate job managing a healthcare clinic, I sold myself the lie that I was too busy for even a proper lunch, let alone any anxiety-reducing exercise.

It was a constant rush, and I had to keep going.

Unsurprisingly, my anxiety levels kept climbing higher and higher (go figure).

Then came the epiphany: the world will always push us to do more and work faster. But eventually, you realize it will never stop. You reach one target speed, and suddenly the target moves further out of reach.

We have to acknowledge that we are the gatekeepers of our health and must prioritize short bursts of time for our mental well-being.

This needs to be a priority, not an option. Borrow time from another task if needed—your body and mind deserve your attention.

Basic self-care doesn't have to be time-consuming.

All it takes is 10 minutes, three times a day, to drastically change your life.

Here are three simple techniques (and the science behind them) that can revolutionize your day and reduce your anxiety levels.

1. Alternate Nostril Breathing: The Yogic Secret to Balance

Imagine having a switch that could instantly balance your nervous system. Well, you do—it's your nose!

Alternate nostril breathing is a powerful technique that yogis have been using for millennia. Here's how it works:

1. Inhale through one nostril while blocking the other with your thumb or finger.

2. Hold the breath for a few seconds.

3. Exhale through the opposite nostril.

4. Repeat, alternating nostrils.

Aim for slow breaths: inhale for a count of 4, hold for 4, and exhale for 4.

The Science Behind It

Your nostrils are connected to different sides of your brain.

Right nostril breathing activates your sympathetic nervous system, increasing heart rate and blood pressure.

Left nostril breathing stimulates your parasympathetic system, calming you down.

By alternating, you create harmony between these systems, leading to:

• Increased cognitive and respiratory function

• Activation of liver detoxifying enzymes

• Lower blood pressure and blood sugar

• Decreased cellular aging

• Neuroprotection

Not a shabby list of benefits.

2. Qigong: The Ancient Art of Energy Cultivation

You don’t need more coffee for a boost, you need to unclog your body.

“Qi" means energy, and "gong" means skill.

This ancient Chinese practice combines physical movements with mindfulness to optimize your body's energy flow.

Since I started tuning into my body's energy, I've noticed where it feels "stuck." Often, I sense heaviness in my belly area (solar plexus chakra).

That's when I know there's a blockage, and the simple act of intentional movement releases that feeling.

Starting your day with some moving, shaking, and tapping will ensure your energy centers are flowing.

Here's a simple morning routine:

1. Stand with feet shoulder-width apart and bounce gently for a few minutes.

2. Pat your body firmly, starting from your calves and working all the way up to your head.

3. Use your fists to tap your lower back, upper back, chest, and the back of your head.

4. Side swipe under your armpits to clear your lungs.

Remember, Qi is your life force energy. By moving your body daily, you keep this energy flowing and remove any blockages.

3. Earthing/Grounding: Reconnecting with Mother Nature

Your body is a bioelectric marvel.

Your heart, brain, nervous system, muscles, and immune system all rely on electrical subsystems. This means we need a certain amount of electrons to stay energetic and healthy.

Electron deficiency can lead to inflammation in the body, which in turn leads to many diseases and thickening of our blood.

Thickened blood can bring its own range of issues—namely, blood clots.

Guess who has a lot of spare electrons up for grabs?

Yo mama does! Mother Earth, that is—the greatest giver humankind has ever known (though we often forget to thank her).

Mama Earth operates like a giant battery, continually replenished by lightning, solar radiation, and heat from its molten core. Her surface is full of ions that we can absorb.

Just like newborns are encouraged to maintain skin-to-skin contact with their mothers to increase immunity and reduce stress, our mother planet can provide us with health benefits through direct contact as well.

Any skin contact is good, but walking barefoot on the earth is highly efficient. This is called "grounding" or "earthing".

The soles of our feet are richly covered with some 1,300 nerve endings per square inch, making them a highly efficient way to draw those electrons into your body.

Grounding balances our body's electrons, enhancing self-regulation and healing.

I've always found walking barefoot on grass soothing, but I didn't understand why until I read "Earthing" by Clint Ober.

It was an aha moment: our bodies crave these electrons like we crave water when thirsty. No wonder it feels so good—we're receiving exactly what we need.

So, ditch those cute shoes for 10 minutes a day to get your daily dose of electrons.

Final Words

Remember, your well-being isn't a luxury—it's a necessity.

These three simple techniques—alternate nostril breathing, Qigong, and earthing—are powerful tools that can transform your day with minimal time investment.

Don't wait for your body to scream louder. Start small, be consistent, and allow these ancient practices to bring modern relief to your busy life.

In the race of life, it's not about going faster—it's about going further, healthier, and happier.

Stay happy and healthy xoxo

You don’t see the light in a child’s smile.
You don’t hear the waves meeting the shore.
You don’t feel the strength in your own body as you move.

You’re missing the very things that can nourish and heal you—things that are only available in the present moment.

You are not alone. I’ve been there. I still fall into it.

But here’s something I’ve learned: happiness isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you claim.

Telling yourself you’ll be happy once you achieve that goal? You won’t.

Another goal will take its place.

Telling yourself you’ll be happy once your partner speaks to you with more gentleness? You won’t.

You’ll want something else on top of that.

The mind is always chasing. Always wanting.

But when you sit quietly with yourself, you realize happiness isn’t something you have to chase.

It’s already here.

It’s a choice.

I can choose to fret about the past that I cannot change.
I can choose to stress about the future that I cannot control.
Or I can choose to open my eyes to what’s in front of me.
To observe reality, not torment myself with my imagination.

And here’s something you can do today to start breaking the habit of postponing your happiness:

Walk mindfully.

Walk in a way that makes every step nourishing.
Walk in a way that reminds you that you can walk.
Walk with purpose, even if you’re just crossing the room.
Walk with gratitude, whether it’s across an office, a street, or a city.

Master the art of mindful walking, and you’ll return to the here and now.

You will make yourself available to life.
And life, in return, will make itself available to you.

Then you will be free.

Try it today and see how your day changes.

All the best my friend,

Sirah

You work hard to earn money—then spend it fixing your health.

Stress is the silent thief, linked to 90% of diseases.

It fuels addiction, inflammation, and depression, trapping us in a cycle of earning just to repair the damage it causes.

And for what? A bigger bank account? Status? Approval from people who aren’t even thinking about us?

Your Net Worth is Not Your Self-Worth

We've been sold a lie: that wealth equals worth.

But true self-worth isn’t found in a bank balance. It isn’t tied to external validation.

True self-worth means:

• You are fearless.

• You feel beneath no one.

• You are immune to the opinions of the world.

Notice I didn’t say you don’t listen to feedback—because growth requires responsiveness. But you don’t let criticism define you.

Net worth is a reflection of the ego, not self-esteem.

The pursuit of success should not come at the cost of your peace.

True success isn’t just about making money. It’s about working toward a goal that matters to you while staying true to yourself.

What True Abundance Actually Looks Like

True abundance isn't found in your wallet—it's within you.

True abundance is:

• A joyful, energetic body (health)

• A lightness of being (ease and flow)

• A reflective and clear mind (mental peace)

• Love and compassion in the heart (connection)

It starts from within—not from an external achievement, not from someone else's approval, and definitely not from stress.

Ironically, stress blocks abundance in all forms: material and spiritual.

The same mind that conjures worst-case scenarios can create something life-changing—if we release the fear and resistance that fuels the hustle and grind.

This includes attracting financial abundance, harmonizing our material and spiritual wealth.

The Three Pillars of Consciously Creating Your Life

Chasing wealth is like trying to fill a leaky bucket with water.

To create abundance easily start by feeling abundant inside (repairing the bucket):

This means having:

• A happy, healthy body

• An open heart

• A clear mind

Once you feel this way, work on attracting more abundance using three old practices:

1. Dharna – Focus your thoughts

2. Dhiyan – Quiet your mind (meditation)

3. Samadhi – Feel at one with everything

Imagine you already have what you want—the car, house, relationship.

Feel this deeply when you meditate. Sit quietly until you feel connected to something bigger than yourself.

When you get good at this process, you'll have better control over your body, mind, and life.

You'll naturally make and share good things. Your energy and ideas will flow freely, bringing in all kinds of abundance – including money.

Remember: Money is just a way to show value. It goes where people create and share real value.

You'll become like a magnet, pulling in wealth, people, chances, and ideas to do well.

Abundance Is Your Birthright—But You Must Align With It

The life you want isn't "out there" waiting for you to hustle harder. It's within you, waiting to be activated.

You cannot build true abundance on a foundation of stress, fear, and exhaustion.

Instead, cultivate inner peace and clarity. Then, plant the seeds of intention in the fertile field of infinite possibilities.

Abundance doesn't come from overworking yourself into the ground.

It comes from aligning with the truth of who you are—a being already connected to infinite creative power.

So stop chasing success.

Align with abundance, and let it flow to you effortlessly.

Then, take action that feels right, not stressed.

This means moving forward with purpose and clarity, rather than force and anxiety.

Grief arrives unannounced, shattering the world as we know it.

It lingers in the silence, the echoes of laughter, the ache for one more embrace, one more word, one more moment.

But what if their departure is not random?

What if it carries a purpose beyond our understanding?

When we surrender to grief instead of resisting it, we receive the gift it came to bring—the realization that love transcends the physical.

Our loved ones are never truly gone; in our surrender, we become one with them, their presence woven into our very being.

Vishakha's Story Unfolds: A Father's Presence Beyond the Physical

I was traveling to a city 350 kilometers away, a weekly ritual to complete my PhD coursework. That day, I was deeply upset about something. As I settled into my seat in the chair car, an unspoken plea escaped my heart: I cannot go on like this. You have to show me a way out.

And then, I felt it—a hand resting gently on my right shoulder. Startled, I turned around, expecting to see someone behind me. But there was no one there. The touch was undeniable. A moment later, a voice, familiar yet beyond this world, whispered: I am there… I am watching you.

Tears welled up and spilled over. I knew. It was my father.

He had left us suddenly. That evening, he had gone to play bridge, a game he loved. On his way back, life took him to another kind of bridge—the one that leads beyond the physical world. An accident left him with a pelvic bone fracture. We rushed him to the hospital, where I attended to him the night he met with the accident. Late in the night, he looked at me with an intensity that made time stand still and said, I have done everything I wanted to for everyone else, but what I wanted to do for you is not yet complete.

I held his hand and reassured him, It’s okay, Papa. You can finish it once you’re well.

I didn’t know that it wasn’t going to be the same ever again.

Despite all our prayers, the best doctors, and our relentless hope, septicemia took hold. In two and a half months, he was gone. The day he left, he looked at me and smiled. It was a smile of surrender, of peace, of completion.

Sirah Remembers: A Mother's Bond Beyond Time

It had been seven years since I buried my daughter.

Seven years since I carried the tiniest casket across the cemetery lawn and passed it to the hands of the gravedigger who would lower it into the earth.

Yet the memory still felt like an electrocution—sharp, inescapable, unrelenting. I knew this day would hit hard, so I put in for a vacation day at work months ahead.

The morning started like any other. I did my mom stuff—packed lunches, helped my kids dress, sent them off to school with a smile.

And then, when the house was quiet, I started emotionally cutting myself. I pulled her things out of storage and went through them one by one:

● The pink knitted hat she wore in the hospital when the nurse handed her to me.

● The matching pink blanket she was wrapped in.

● The outfits I had bought ahead of her delivery.

● The certificate with her footprints.

Each piece dragged me back in time.

Could I have done something differently?

Why did I survive and she didn’t?

Was her soul anywhere to be found now?

Do we even survive after death?

I felt guilt for not saving her.

I felt shame for surviving without her.

I felt rage toward the people who treated her death—and my pain—with indifference. For five hours, I sat there. Sobbing. Tearing myself apart. Reliving every moment.

Then, I packed her things away again, wiped my face, and got ready for my living children to return home.

That evening, a couple of friends reached out.

It was Friday night. They wanted to go out.

I hesitated. But I said yes.

And for a few hours, I laughed. I chatted. My mind was light.

When I got home, my husband had already put the kids to bed and tucked himself in with them. I crawled into bed, exhausted. Within seconds, I was asleep.

Then it happened.

A child’s laughter.

A rush of cold air brushing past my left side.

The sound of little feet running by.

Half-asleep, I thought, Did one of the kids wake up? That’s not like them.

Then another thought, Maybe I had a tad too much wine tonight?

My questions were interrupted by the sound of someone pouring water from the fridge in the kitchen.

Oh good, I thought, my husband’s awake—he can check on the kids. And just like that, I drifted back to sleep.

The next day, I went about my life, thinking nothing more of it.

A week passed.

Then, on a slow Sunday morning, my husband and I were lying in bed when he said, “You know she came last week.”

I froze. The hairs on my arms stood up like icicles.

“What do you mean?” I whispered.

“She came last week. I saw her shadow run through the hallway at night and into the kitchen where I was.”

The tears started pouring.

It was her. She had come to me.

She had come to tell me she was okay.

She had come to tell me I would be okay.

She had come to set me free.

In an instant, the burdens I had carried for years—guilt, regret, pain—lifted. My husband never doubted his experience because she had come to him the week she died.

He told me she spoke to him. She told him not to worry. She told him she was okay. I never believed him.

Until that Sunday morning in our bed.

I thought his mind was hallucinating. That it was wishful thinking.

Just like his experience didn’t convince me that our spirit goes on, I don’t expect my experience to convince you.

But I do hope that, one day, you experience something mystical for yourself—something that lets you know in your own way that life doesn’t end here.

This phase is just a chapter.

A chapter worth living to its fullest.

But thanks to my little girl, I know now—there’s another chapter waiting.

Reunions are to be had.

Laughter is to be shared on the other side.

And until then—there is still life to be lived.

The Gift of Surrender (Vishakha’s experience continues)

One evening, overwhelmed by grief, when my father was battling with life, I had broken down while speaking to my spiritual mentor. He listened patiently, letting me release the weight of my sorrow. And then, he said something that changed everything: He is an individual soul.

A shift occurred. I had been holding on so tightly, unwilling to let my father go. But was that fair to him? Was my attachment keeping him tethered to a realm he had already transcended?

I surrendered—to his soul’s will, to the universe, to the understanding that love does not require clinging. And in that surrender, I felt him smile once more before he finally left.

I realized that I had to live, not just exist. My father wanted me to find joy again, just as Sirah’s daughter had come to offer her mother peace. Our loved ones do not want us drowning in pain. They are closer than we think, watching, loving, and guiding us in ways beyond our comprehension.

Grief does not disappear, but it transforms. It becomes a quiet knowing, a presence we no longer resist, an invitation to live fully in their honor.

You Are Never Truly Alone

If you’re carrying grief, let this be your sign.

● Your loved ones wouldn’t want you drowning in pain.

● You don’t have to have all the answers to keep moving forward.

● Even in your darkest moments, you are not alone.

They are closer than you think.

They see you. They love you.

And one day, you will laugh together again.

Sending you peace and love.

💕Sirah & Vishakha

This piece was was coauthored by Dr.Vishakha Singhania

The past is either dead weight—or rocket fuel.

Black: The past is dead weight—keep moving forward.

White: History repeats itself—study it relentlessly.

Grey: Look back, but only to see how far you’ve come.

Here’s the truth: everything is grey.

Life is grey.

People are grey.

My hair is grey (almost).

Just like money, the past is only as valuable as what you do with it.

Last week, I wrote about The Gap—that pit where you feel stuck, overwhelmed, unsure if you're making progress.

When you’re in The Gap, all you see is how far you have left to go. The distance between where you are and where you think you should be stretches endlessly in front of you.

But every struggle has its opposite. Every low has a high.

Black has white.

Dark has light.

The Gap has The Gain.

The Gain is proof that you are moving forward, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Let’s look at them together—because without contrast, you’ll never see the full picture.

When You Can’t See Your Own Progress

I’ll admit, sometimes I struggle to see my own Gain.

Last week, I found myself deep in The Gap—again.

I’ve been writing online for almost a year, yet I still feel like I’m not where I should be.
I'm taking courses, joining writing communities, practicing—but progress feels slow.

I started writing because of a random YouTube video.
One morning, I was out on a nature walk, scrolling for something to listen to.

A video from some guy named Dan Koe popped up.

Five minutes in, I thought, “Huh… why not? I should start writing online.”

So I did. With zero plan.

But I froze every time I had to hit post on Twitter (X).

Publishing my first article on Medium? Agonizing.

I wasn’t used to putting my thoughts out there, especially for strangers to read.
Before this, my only social media exposure was Facebook—a digital scrapbook of people I actually knew.

Even that, I had been fasting from for years.

I was pushing words into the void.

And then—slowly—people started responding.

Strangers started feeling like friends.

Last week, when I was having my moment I forced myself to zoom out.

And here’s what I saw:

• I now post without overthinking.

• I now publish without hesitation.

• I reworked an old article this week and that’s when it hit me—I’ve improved.

Not overnight. Not dramatically. Just step by step.

The Proof is in the Details

Last year: My writing was dense. Clunky. No white space.

Being in my 40s now, I look back to my 20 year old self and think–I am proud of her in many ways: she was able to stay true to her adventurous and outspoken nature despite outside factors cueing her to dim her light.

This year: More space, more flow, easier to read.

I look back at my 20-year-old self with pride.

She was bold, adventurous, and outspoken—refusing to dim her light, even when the world nudged her to shrink.

Last year: My words felt flat.

There is this time dilation that exists as one celebrates more and more birthdays- the years just feel shorter.

This year: I use more visual words.

Time dilation, wrinkles, and gray hairs—aging’s three inseparable triplets.

Last year: I hid behind my words. The closing image on the article:

This year: I allow myself to be seen. Replaced the image with this one:

We don’t always notice growth while we’re in it.

But when we zoom out, the Gain is undeniable.

Zoom Out. Look Back.

You’ve done this before.

You’ve learned, struggled, adapted, and kept moving.

And since history repeats itself, you already know how this story ends: You rise again.

But the mind seeks proof—so let’s gather some shall we.

Step 1: Identify a Past Struggle

Think of a time when you felt completely stuck.

You embarked on a quest and found yourself sinking in quicksand.

Maybe it was a challenge at work, in your marriage, in your business.

A moment where you weren’t sure how you’d make it through.

Write it down. Be specific.

What was happening?

How did you feel?

What thoughts ran through your mind?

(Hint: this only works if you actually do it. I see you skimming.)

Step 2: Retrace Your Steps

How did you get through it?

• What were the first small steps you took?

• Who or what helped you along the way?

• What did you learn—about yourself, about life, about resilience?

Step 3: Recognize the Shift

Look at where you are now. The version of you who faced that challenge no longer exists in the same way.

• What would you tell that past version of yourself?

• What qualities did you develop from that experience?

• How does knowing you overcame this shape how you see your current challenges?

Step 4: Anchor the Lesson

To make this real, create a personal mantra from this experience—something to remind yourself of the next time you’re in the Gap.

Examples:
"I have proof I can survive what feels impossible."
"If I got through that, I can get through this."
"I don’t have to know how—I just have to keep moving."

Write it down. Say it out loud. Let it sink in.

The Progress You Can’t See

The progress is there—you just have to step back and see it.

You’re not the same person who started this journey.

You’ve grown, adapted, pushed through things you once thought would break you. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’re further than you think.

Keep going. Keep stacking the wins.

One day, you’ll look back and wonder why you ever doubted yourself.

The future version of you is already winning. You just haven’t zoomed out far enough to see it yet.

Cheers to your progress!

I’m 43.

I remember turning 20 and being clueless.

It was a pretty big milestone moving into an age without a ‘teen’ after it.

A long way from those early tween years but I knew that 40 was really, really, really, far away (wink).

The more birthdays you celebrate the shorter the years feel.

Time dilation, wrinkles, and gray hairs—aging’s three inseparable triplets.

January flips to August. August flips to December. Faster and faster.

As a kid, school days felt endless—seven hours felt stretched into a week.

Now I blink, and half the day is gone. Blink again, and it's bedtime.

Of course this is just perception as it still takes 365 days for our planet to loop around our warm and fuzzy sun.

I look back at my 20-year-old self with pride.

She was bold, adventurous, and outspoken—refusing to dim her light, even when the world nudged her to shrink.

Could she have done things differently? Heck yeah.

But regret is pointless—life only moves forward. No one gets a rewind button, so wasting energy on "what ifs" is a losing game.

What does matter is reflection. Learning. Adapting. Using our past as fuel, not a weight.

And once we gain some wisdom? We pass it down to those a few steps behind us… or 20 years.

Time adds perspective. The further you get, the clearer the picture becomes.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward.” – Steve Jobs

Now that I can see the full pattern, here’s what I’d tell my 20-year-old self:

1/Focus On Important Relationships

Wrong friends will cost you more than you realize.

We want people to like us.

We want to have lots of friends.

We want to be in the perfect romance.

We want our familial relationships to sustain us well.

In my 20s, I held onto friendships that drained me.

There were lies, backstabbing, and toxicity—but I stuck around because we were part of the same group.

I ignored the impact on my self-worth.

At the same time, I watched friends stay in miserable relationships just to avoid being alone.

It’s simple relationship math: quality > quantity.

The people in your life should lift you up, not weigh you down.

“If all you do is cry in a relationship, ask yourself—are you dating a human or an onion?”

- the internet

Be ruthless about cutting out negativity.

Be intentional about keeping the ones who matter.

You are a reflection of the people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely.

2/ Don’t Get Boxed In By Labels

Labels aren’t life sentences.

We are shaped by the environments we grow up in.

The messages we hear—repeated by family, culture, and society—become truths we never think to question.

For me, the label was tied to my gender and life’s purpose.

Being a girl meant my path was mapped out before I even had a say in it.

There were rules—stricter than my brothers’—and constant reminders that I had more to lose if I stepped out of line.

The ultimate goal? A respectable marriage, approved by family and community, followed by a life as a wife, mother, and dutiful daughter-in-law.

I was warned—loudly and subtly—that letting my age creep past my mid 20s was a dangerous game.

Biology wouldn’t be on my side. Beauty wouldn’t last.

The message was clear: the sooner, the better. Delay too long, and I’d risk becoming an expired product.

My friends and I, all first-generation South Asian girls in Canada, felt the box closing in.

We questioned it, laughed about it, tried to push against it—but when you hear the same message over and over, you start drinking the Kool-Aid.

Only later did we realize it had been spiked the whole time.

Why can’t I walk straight?!

For some, that path is a dream. And that’s fine. But it shouldn’t be the only option.

To my 20-year-old self: You don’t have to limit your life’s ambitions because you’re a girl.

To anyone else boxed in by a label—whether it’s gender, race, age, or identity—write your own damn story.

Take the time to learn yourself and set off on your journey with that knowledge in hand.

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom” -Lao Tzu

Your life isn’t a script. You get to choose how it unfolds.

3/You don’t have to “BE” anything when you grow up- “Do” stuff instead

Don’t fall into the work identity trap.

We all grew up hearing the same question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

It makes you believe your identity is tied to your career—that success means picking the “right” title and sticking with it for life.

But as a kid, what do you really know? You pick from the handful of careers you’ve heard of—or worse, whatever makes your parents happy.

“Hey son, do you want to be a doctor, lawyer, or engineer?”

“Mom, I want to be a YouTuber”…(crickets)

“So…doctor, lawyer, or engineer?”.

Some parents try to live out their dreams through their kids. And as a child, you go along with it—because let’s be real, nothing beats parental approval.

A dance that will continue your whole life unless you do the inner work to change the moves.

You will always excel in what actually interests you. That’s how you find flow—when work feels effortless because it aligns with your natural strengths.

This is where ikigai comes in—the Japanese concept of a “reason for being.”

To find yours, ask:

• What do I love?

• What am I good at?

• What can I get paid for?

• What does the world need?

When you align these, you don’t just choose a job. You build a life that excites you.

So let’s retire the old question.

Instead of “What do you want to be?” ask:

“What do you want to DO?”

This shift releases careers from identity. You are not your job. And you don’t have to stick to just one path.

New careers are being created at record speed. As Adam Grant says in Think Again—your future job might not even exist yet.

So to my 20-year-old self, I’d say:

Your identity is not to your profession. You can change your path and do multiple things. Don’t stress about having it all figured out. Keep learning. Keep evolving. The answers will come.

4/ Invest Your Money

Don’t set your money on fire.

When I first started making real money, I spent it like it was Monopoly cash.

Every shiny think I had been eyeing for years—bought.

Every dinner out—my treat.

Every round of drinks—next one’s on me, strangers I just met!

I thought 40 was a lifetime away. Turns out, it’s closer than you think.

And when you get there, your past financial choices will either be your biggest regret or your greatest flex.

So to my 20-year-old self: Start saving and investing, like, yesterday.

The key isn’t just saving—it’s putting your money to work.

If I could go back, I’d tell myself to diversify income early.

Stacking paychecks and letting them rot in a low-interest savings account is not the right move.

Here’s what I wish I had done sooner:

Buy Real Estate As Soon As Possible

Land isn’t making a comeback—it’s never left.

Set aside part of your income, and when you've got enough for a down payment—pull the trigger.

It is a huge purchase and scary from the outset, but so worth it in the long run.

People will always need places to live. You included.

If you can, stay with family a little longer and rent out your own place instead.

Or house-hack—live in part of a property and rent out the rest.

Markets go up and down, but in the long run, real estate trends up and to the right.

It’s a great way to start creating generational wealth as land is a finite commodity on this planet.

Start Investing In Companies You Believe In

Big tech. Long-term stocks. Maybe even AI.

Companies that will still be here in 10–20 years.

You don’t need to hit home runs, just play the long game.

Bet On Assets That Hold Value

You know what else has being going up and to the right? Gold and silver.

March 2024 = gold $2,245.19 per ounce; silver $25.16 per ounce.

March 2025 = gold $2,910.40 per ounce; silver $32.50 per ounce.

Over the past year, gold has increased by approximately 29.63%, while silver has risen by about 29.17%. ​

See the chart below. 30 year gold prices (blue) and silver (orange).

Don’t Let Your Cash Rot

Money sitting in a bank account is losing value every day.

Unless you’ve got millions collecting interest, inflation is eating your savings alive. The $1 you save today won’t buy the same tomorrow.

Your money should be working—not napping in a bank account or stuffed under your mattress.

5/ Create Health Routines Now

Your body will start to take its revenge.

Junk food, all-nighters, skipping workouts—no big deal in your 20s.

But aging isn’t subtle. One day, you’re bouncing back from injuries like Wolverine.

The next, you pull a muscle reaching for your phone.

It’s easier to maintain health than to fix it later.

Metabolism slows. Hormones shift. Recovery takes longer.

And if you don’t build solid habits now, life will make it increasingly difficult to start later.

To my younger self: Do not stop playing basketball. Keep moving. Keep lifting. Stay active like your life depends on it—because one day, it will.

“ I remember being able to get up without making sound effects….good times”

6/ Time Speeds Up

You think 40 is far away.

You blink—and you’re there.

I used to look at my 40-year-old relatives like they were fossils. Half-dead. Out of touch. Their best years behind them.

Now, standing on the other side, I can tell you—40 is NOT old.

It’s actually the prime of your life.

But whether you hit your stride or crash into a midlife crisis depends on what you do in your 20s and 30s.

Bad habits compound just like good ones.

How to avoid that crisis?

Live a balanced life in your 20s and 30s.

Don’t go chasing someone else’s dream—chase your own.

Don’t allow someone else’s limiting beliefs become your own.

Take the time to maintain healthy relationships.

No one on their deathbed wishes they had worked more and spent less time with loved ones.

Time moves faster than you think.

Write a story you’ll be proud to read later.

“The years teach much which the days never knew” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

7/ Never Stop Playing

Stop laughing and you’ll die sooner.

Laughter reduces stress and increases immunity and happy hormones (dopamine).

Staying playful and not taking life too seriously is the antidote to most problems.

Life is going to throw curveballs—it’s inevitable.

How you react is in your control.

Don’t let hard times steal your joy.

• Find a way to have fun.

• Find a way to forgive.

• Find a way to make every day count.

The gain is in the journey, not the destination.

Turns out 20 years later, I still like to play dress-up.

Bonus: To My Younger Self

Know that you are incredibly powerful just the way you are.

Everything in this world is energy—including thoughts, emotions, and the reality they create.

Mastering that energy is the difference between manifesting what you want and what you fear.

These are the laws you need to master to use your energy to your highest potential: 16 Laws of Manifestation.

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You don’t suck, you’re in the “Gap”.

No, not the store with overpriced jeans. (Though, let’s be real—why are they never on sale?)

I’m talking about The Gap—the brutal, soul-testing space between where you are and where you want to be.

It’s where dreams go to test your patience.

Where ambition meets reality. And let me tell you—reality does not play fair.

I know this place too well.

I almost quit X-ray school because I thought everyone else in my cohort was better than me.

I had fully convinced myself I wasn’t cut out for it. So much so that I sat down with my clinical instructor, ready to tell her I was dropping out.

And then she told me I was the strongest student in the group.

I’m not bragging—I was shocked. I had been so convinced I was failing that I nearly walked away from something I was actually excelling at.

And that’s when I realized: we are our own worst critics.

We assume we should be better.

We think we should be further along.

We convince ourselves that if it’s hard, it must mean we’re not good enough.

But struggling doesn’t mean you suck. It just means you’re in The Gap.

The Flag on the Other Side

There’s a win waiting for you on the other side.

That little triangle-on-a-stick in my (obviously professional) drawing? That’s your trophy, your victory, your proof that you made it through.

But here’s the catch: you don’t get to claim it if you stop climbing.

So, how do you actually push through The Gap instead of letting it swallow you whole?

Here’s how.

1. Reframe Frustration as Proof of Growth

The biggest mistake people make is thinking frustration is failure.

It’s not. Frustration is a sign that you’re growing.

If it feels hard, good. That means you’re stretching beyond your current abilities.

Your brain is literally rewiring itself to level up.

Think of it like a video game. I will go with Mario Bros. cause I am old-school and can only play 2D games.

When you’re in a level and the brown mushroom Gumba bumps into you lose your life.

How boring would that game be if you just threw away the controller and never tried to go a bit further.

Next time you will see him coming an jump.

You get a little bit better every time and inch out of the gap.

A couple years ago I enrolled in flight school.

I felt like I was completely out of my element (and my mind) the first few flights.

I couldn’t grasp all the ways the plane could move. Unlike a car that just stays on a road, a plane goes up, down, left, right, tilts, and yaws. (remember, I am a 2D kind of person).

I hit The Gap hard. I told myself, "No way am I ever going to learn how to fly this thing."

But I kept showing up.

After 20 hours of instruction I was taking off, flying, and landing—with barely any help.

So the next time frustration starts screaming at you, don’t take it as a stop sign.

Take it as proof that you’re in the process of becoming better.

2. Set Micro-Wins to Keep Momentum

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by how far away the goal looks.

When something feels too big, the brain shuts down and defaults to “let’s see what’s going on on Tik Tok”.

This is when you need to forget the big end goal for now. Shrink the target.

Instead of “I need to write a book,” make it “I’ll write one paragraph today.”
Instead of “I need to get in shape,” make it “I’ll do 10 push-ups.”
Instead of “I need to be a millionaire,” make it “I’ll save an extra $5 today.”

• Did one workout? Win.

• Wrote one paragraph? Win.

• Sketched for 10 minutes? Win.

Every small win stacks. And before you know it, you’ve built something real.

I still find myself feeling in the gap on many days and lately it’s tied to writing (I ditched the planes and picked up the pen a year ago).

But every note I post or article I write is moving me in the right direction.

Small steps might not feel like much in the moment, but they keep you moving.

And movement beats perfection every single time.

3. Detach from the Outcome & Trust the Process

Most people quit because they’re obsessed with immediate results.

As someone who talks fast, walks fast, and works fast…I can totally relate to this.

It’s common to start something and immediately start judging it:

"Is this working?"
"Is it good yet?"
"Why haven’t I gone viral?"

This is the wrong focus.

We must shift from results → reps.

The best athletes don’t stare at the scoreboard every second—they just keep playing the game.

The best artists don’t judge every brushstroke—they paint until the masterpiece emerges.

The best creators don’t obsess over metrics—they put in the work and let time do its thing.

You don’t need to know exactly when you’ll succeed. You just need to keep showing up.

Last year, I experimented with a YouTube channel using AI images and motivational voiceovers.

I committed to posting one video every single day for three months.

So, every Saturday, I locked in and batch-created content for hours.

For a few weeks it was nothing but crickets.

Then out of nowhere—a spike.

Views shot up. Subscribers followed. Before the three months were up, the channel was monetized.

The wild part is I wasn’t even expecting it.

I had simply committed to the reps and detached from the outcome.

When you detach from the outcome and trust the process, and put in the reps you are just one step away from getting out of that gap.

The Only Way to Fail Is to Stop

Let me make this simple.

The easiest way to guarantee failure is to quit.

The only way to guarantee success is to keep going.

It doesn’t matter how slow it feels. If you’re still moving, you’re still in the game.

The best dopamine hit isn’t a like, a comment, or a viral post.

It’s getting to the other side of The Gap.

Your future self is already standing there. Keep climbing.

Final Thoughts

If you’re in The Gap right now, good. That means you’re in the process of becoming.

Just don’t stop. You can hit ‘pause’, take a breather, but don’t quit.

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Letting others’ opinions shape your choices is sentencing your soul to a slow death.

Yet, my upbringing ingrained me with the belief that reputation was everything.

What others thought about you, said about you, how they acted toward you was a measure of your worth.

You were to build your life around the norms and mindsets of those around you for acceptance–not your personal preferences because that would be super selfish.

And who wants to carry the guilt and shame of being labeled as selfish?

Not it.

Being raised in my community, my desires and sense of self felt severely limited

But as I expanded my world, I realized this conditioning isn’t just cultural—it’s global

At a very young age we are taught to conform to the preferences of our teachers, parents, and communities.

We learn to sit still, raise our hands, and follow rules because teachers reward obedience over individuality, not because it feels right.

We choose to be a doctor because it will please our parents, not because it fulfills us.

We agree to an arranged marriage because it will please the gossip in our community, even if it suffocates us.

Living by the opinions of others is like an untrained contortionist—twisting into painful, unnatural shapes, risking both injury and identity.

It will never feel natural.

You will never feel whole.

No matter what choices you make, someone will always disapprove.

What’s the remedy?--you do you girlfriend!

Easier said than done.

There’s an element of unlearning that is necessary here.

Understanding why we do what we do is the first step to making positive changes in our life.

The answers lie in these three things:

• Neurocircuitry

• Evolutionary Traits

• Childhood Programming

1. The Empathy Trap (Mirror Neurons)

Amongst the many wonders in our brain are those called mirror neurons.

These cells play a key role in imitation, learning, and empathy.

When we see someone smile, frown, or experience pain, our mirror neurons activate as if we were experiencing it ourselves.

This neurological process helps us understand others’ emotions and intentions, making them essential for social connection.

But this ability comes at a cost.

Because mirror neurons make us feel what others feel, they also make us highly sensitive to approval and rejection.

When someone disapproves of our choices, our brain mirrors their disappointment, creating real emotional discomfort.

Your brain tricks you into thinking rejection is a death sentence. So you shrink, you conform, you betray yourself—each time reinforcing the cycle.

The more you seek approval, the more your brain craves it.

The trap? You don’t just want approval anymore—you feel like you need it to feel safe.

Over time, this neurological wiring trains us to seek validation, making it hard to separate what we truly want from what will keep others happy.

By recognizing this biological reflex we can work harder to catch ourselves in these exchanges and learn to override them.

Here’s what you can do:

1. Recognize and Question the Reflex: Understand that your urge to seek approval is a brain response, not a sign of weakness. When you feel the need to conform, pause and ask yourself: Am I doing this for me or to avoid judgment?

2. Build Inner Validation: Stop chasing external approval and affirm your own choices based on your values. Get comfortable with discomfort—each time you stand firm, you rewire your brain to prioritize authenticity over approval.

3. Reinforce Authenticity Through Action: Surround yourself with independent thinkers who live their truth, making it easier for you to live yours. Keep choosing authenticity until it feels natural—the more you practice, the freer you become.

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2. The Survival Trap (Evolutionary Group Survival)

Humans evolved to survive in groups, relying on cooperation and social bonds for protection, food, and survival.

In early human history, being rejected by the group could mean death—no shelter, no food, no defense against predators.

This deep-rooted survival instinct wired our brains to seek acceptance and avoid behaviors that might lead to exclusion.

Over time, this need to "fit in" became automatic, shaping our actions to align with group expectations rather than individual desires.

Even today, our brains associate rejection with danger, triggering stress and anxiety when we go against the herd.

Your nervous system reacts to rejection like it’s a real threat—even when it’s not.

This traps you in a fear mindset and hijacks your decisions. It makes you more likely to prioritize the group’s approval over your own truth.

No one is throwing you out of the tribe anymore. You won’t starve for choosing yourself—but your soul will if you don’t.

Rejection is no longer a threat to survival, only a temporary discomfort—remind yourself that you can thrive without universal approval.

3. The Conditioning Trap (Childhood Programming)

From a young age, we learn that following the rules and making others happy leads to praise, rewards, and acceptance.

This teaches our brain to connect approval with feeling good.

Before age 7, a child's brain is like a sponge, absorbing everything as truth—locking in experiences as deep subconscious programming.

When children are scolded, shamed, or made to feel guilty for expressing their opinions, they learn that agreeing with others is safer than being themselves.

Childhood programming is one of the strongest forces shaping our adulthood.

As adults, we don’t even remember the moments that shaped us. But they still run our lives. Subconscious programming operates like a script we didn’t write, keeping us stuck in patterns we don’t even realize we’re repeating.

This is why we struggle to say no, why we silence ourselves, why we feel trapped—because we’re still running the program we learned as children.

You can try to piece it together through journaling, but some patterns run so deep, they stay hidden—until you bring them to the surface.

This is where Quantum Healing Hypnosis comes in.

I experienced this firsthand. Hypnosis brought clarity into my life and helped me bridge and repair childhood programming that was holding me back. I uncovered things about myself that I didn’t even know I didn’t know—deep-seated beliefs I had been unknowingly living by. And once I saw them, I had the power to change them.

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No light. No sound. No sensory input. Nothing.

My body was enclosed in a capsule-like container, floating in 19 inches of salt water.

This was how I spent my past Saturday afternoon as I ventured to do my very first salt float.

I first heard of this experience through my aunt and cousin. They have done many salt floats and found them to be very therapeutic mentally and physically.

Saturday, Jan. 25, 2025, seemed like the perfect day to try this, given that six planets—Venus, Saturn, Jupiter, Mars, Uranus, and Neptune—were aligned along the ecliptic plane and visible to the naked eye.

Such planetary alignments create energetic "gateways" or opportunities for amplified manifestation.

So I figured I would merge my planned intention-setting meditation with the unique experience of a salt float. Win-win!

I booked a 90-minute appointment, packed a towel, and headed out to the lounge.

The owner gave me a few instructions:

1. Take a cool shower

2. Wear earplugs

3. Get in the float

4. Relax

Simple enough. I followed the instructions but got stuck on #4…relax.

I was fully submerged in water with my ears covered as well. Only a small portion of my face remained above the surface.

I had placed an optional float ring under my head for extra buoyancy and security that my face would be above the water line.

I found myself fidgeting a lot to get comfortable. There was a lot of pressure on my upper back and shoulders.

There were a few early moments when I contemplated just getting out of the pod and stopping the whole thing.

But I started to realize that maybe I was making this into a bigger thing than it needed to be. I needed to submit to this process and my resistance was likely creating the strain in my back and neck.

As someone who can’t swim, I wonder if my aversion to water played into my restlessness.

A memory suddenly hit me.

My visit to the Dead Sea —a body of water which is full of salt in which I was literally floating while sitting on a chair. I ditched the chair and still floated. There was no way to stay under the water for long.

This gave me firsthand proof that salt creates incredible buoyancy.

The high salt concentration in the Dead Sea increases the water's density, making it far denser than the human body, allowing you to float effortlessly.

It was the only successful swimming experience I have ever had.

I reminded myself that sea was over 1000 feet deep and the water in this pod was exactly 19 inches deep.

So I made the conscious decision to ride out the 90 minutes no matter what.

I started intentional breathing—slowly in and out.

Transitioned to chanting Ohm—the primordial sound of the universe.

It was fascinating to feel the reverberations of the Ohm chanting surround me and I could feel the vibrations moving inside my chest and neck—much more amplified than during my sitting yoga meditations.

I started to relax and just let my limbs do their thing. I stopped focusing on trying to stay in one spot and let myself drift.

I proceeded to set my new intentions in my mind and added visualization exercises to see them coming into fruition.

And then….I slipped into the void.

No track of space or time.

Just deep sleep.

My next memory is waking up to the soft music that is played in the room to alert the customer that time’s up.

I now had 15 minutes to exit the salt float pod, shower off again, get dressed, and vacate the room.

I contemplated more on my experience on the drive home.

Should you do a salt float?

My advice to anyone considering would be don’t go in with high expectations of something magical happening.

It could end up being that for you but if it ends up being just a normal experience, you don’t want to feel like you were ripped off.

Neutrality is a good headspace to go in with.

The owner mentioned that the largest two groups of his clients were pregnant women and employees in the tech space.

I see how both could benefit from a hard block of time to get deep relaxation.

My cousin mentioned how she has had epiphanies while in there. The business owner said the same—many of his customers come out with answers to nagging questions.

As for me—I did not receive any enlightening information but I had a deep nap and taught myself that I can do one more thing I thought I might be able to.

So go with with no expectations aside from taking in the benefits of an Epsom salt bath such as:

• Softens skin

• Easing joint pain

• Enhances blood flow

• Detoxification through skin

• Reducing cortisol levels and hence stress

These on their own can be worth it as long as you are not claustrophobic.

My final pro tip: if you find yourself in one of these pods, DO NOT rub your eyes with your salty fingers. You’re welcome.

As a former MRI technologist, I have had to end many exams due to patients being unable to tolerate being in a tunnel like machine. But there was light and sound available in that tunnel.

This is an enclosed and dark pod—might not be a claustrophobic persons cup of tea.

Final Thoughts

In the end, my first salt float was a unique experience—one that was equal parts challenging and intriguing.

While I didn’t walk away with profound revelations, I did leave with a newfound respect for the process of surrendering and letting go.

Now to answer if I would do it again? —at this point I really don’t know.

It’s not a 'heck yeah,' but it’s not a 'heck no' either

At this point it’s just ‘Hmmm…well that was different’.

I have been told that it takes a few times to get used to it. You don’t know fully what to expect the first time.

But for now, I think I will stick to my deep tissue massage.

I leave those sessions feeling as though all the stagnant energy has been pushed out of my body, and my muscles feel instantly relaxed.

But who knows? Maybe one day, I’ll find myself back in a dark, enclosed pod, ready to give it another go with a more open mind and body.